What happens to women's libido when they reach 40?

So I was sitting on the bus pondering my situation and things, and I thought about how I never expected to feel like I do, ever. I guess I thought that at my age, I'd have lost interest in men and sex and all that stuff. Unfortunately for me perhaps, something entirely different has happened; I feel more interested than ever!! And I do mean ever!!! What's going on, is it just me or does this happen to lots of other women?

Well, to look at websites about sexual problems you get one picture: which is women don't want sex, and their husbands are running off with younger women (so it's their fault is the unspoken moral) OR husbands want sex desperately but have physical problems with erections and premature this and that (all of which is curable with medical science guys). What they don't talk about is women who desperately want sex, and husbands who don't want to know? Am I alone here I wondered?

Well, I don't think so, and I'll tell you why - look at the websites for married dating - nine out of ten of the women and over forty. Perhaps you could say that this means they have the time now their kids are grown up, but they obviously want more than friendship - some of them are very upfront. I really think there's almost a conspiracy here - women of my age are supposed to shut up and disappear - but there seems to be many women who want more than that. They want love, sex and hot men, and boy they want it a lot!! I've got to say I've never felt quite as into sex as I do now - and maybe it is partly because my partner is not! But I certainly wasn't multi-orgasmic until I hit forty. I wonder how many other women feel the same as me - I know for a fact a lot don't and are quite glad their husbands don't want it either - but there are many women out there looking for men - and good luck to them I say - but what a strange thing that society doesn't seem to realise this is happening. Will investigate this further I think.

Anyway, I haven't heard from any of my men for a few days - I think this is largely because of the summer holidays and excessive demands from families. That's fine. But missing my doctor friend enormously - he does talk filth like no one else!! Maybe he will phone tonight - but if not I have a new contact, which is a rather nice looking guy from a town about fifteen miles away - also divorced, so not so complicated, perhaps. So may chat to him tonight.

I was going to tell you about the doctor, because he is my oldest friend on here, and he also lives the furthest away, so we haven't met yet! Now I was in a particularly mellow mood when he appeared on my chat - otherwise I probably wouldn't have bothered even replying - why? - because his spelling is appalling. Well, it's a bit snooty I suppose, but I tend to judge people by these things, but I'm so glad I didn't this time. We chatted for ages about this and that, and he told me he had a problem with spelling, so I said, no shit sherlock! Well, this went on for a few days, then out of the blue he said 'what type of sex do you like?'

Well, I took a deep breath and told him. And honestly I'd never even thought about it that much. I told him how I love a man to take control and just throw me round the bed and screw my brains out. Well, we've never looked back since then - and honestly sometimes it's been better than having real sex!! I've told him all sorts of mad things I probably shouldn't - must be the bedside manner. But the best thing is we're planning to meet very soon - very nerve wracking - and a bit mad as well. The plan is to spend the weekend together - excuses are in place, and plans made, I just hope it all works out.

Anyway, he loves me to buy stuff and tell him about it - so I've lots of new underwear now! He wants me to buy a vibrator, but I haven't been brave enough yet - well mail order might be a bit suspicious. So that's my next new thing to try - maybe a rabbit, they say they're better than anything! So going to check my messages now, to see if this new man is there - very promising and very close - and wow rather tall and dishy - I like tall, my other half is rather short, and as you now know, I do like a man who can throw me all round the bed, and I'm no fairy, you know. Or maybe the lovely doctor will be about - what a treat!